How to Get Everyone to Really Really Like You

Introduce Yourself

Whether you’re at work, a bar, party, or family dinner, make sure everyone in the room has formally met. If you’re the stranger immediately introduce yourself, shake hands and smile. People will automatically like you. It’s so easy. 

Smile

All that science about humans appreciating smiles because smiling takes so many muscles is 100%...true. Take any movie. The hero smiles and the villain doesn’t. Be the hero. 

Keep Stories to 10 Seconds

Only tell stories when they are super entertaining and relevant, because in general, nobody cares. When you do tell one give a cliff notes ten second version, and if people are completely engrossed then elaborate. 

Do Things that Scare You

Anything that gives you weak knees and a nasty feeling in your stomach is a must. I don’t mean sky diving. I mean travelling, reconnecting with an old friend, sharing your talent, asking someone to meet up outside of work or school. By overcoming these silly fears you’re giving others permission to do the same. 

Don’t Try to Win Conversations

“I went and saw The Rolling Stones.”

NO: “Sick, I’ve never seen them but I’ve seen Paul McCartney twice!”

Yes: “Sick, what was their best song live?” 

 

Be Courteous

Again, a simple “please,” “thanks a lot,” “have a good one,” “Appreciate it” will take you further in the world than a space ship, college education, and beauty combined. 

Be Down for Anything

Everyone’s down to go out on Friday night. When someone suggests a hike, bars, or shopping on Tuesday evening after work just go. Or better yet be the one to suggest it. When someone invites you somewhere, say yes, or else they may stop askin

Never Ever Complain About Injuries/Sickness

Unless you broke your arm chasing a baby monkey, or you got your terrible hangover because the cop in the drunk tank wouldn’t give you any water because you called him “Chubbs”, people simply don’t care. Chances are they’re not feeling 100% either, and you whining about phantom injuries only makes it worse. 

Include Everyone

If you’re lucky enough to have good friends include people who don’t. It’s easy to get caught up trying to have the perfect crew for a night at the bars, but more really is merrier. If the kid you invite sucks, don’t invite them next time and feel good that you at least tried. 

Be Humble

Sharing accomplishments inspires others, but constantly sharing them infuriates others. Also, keep in mind that people usually find modesty more impressive than the feat itself. 

Talk About Topics that Interest Others

It’s important to have a wealth of knowledge and experiences so you can converse about topics that others are interested in when necessary. If you’re uninformed on what someone’s talking about then ask questions and listen. People like that, and you might learn something cool. 

Talk to Everyone Like They’re Your Friend

Again, being yourself gives others permission to do the same. We’re all just people, let’s stop posturing and communicate like it. Don’t talk down to the garbage man, or suck up to your boss. 

Give Rides

Giving rides sucks. But, with rides more than anything, the slight inconvenience for you is far outweighed by the gratitude of someone that, for once, doesn’t have to walk. 

Be Kind to Everyone

It's the golden rule, but nobody would follow it if didn't make you feel so amazing.